Q: When my wife and I were dating, she used to dress sexy and our sex life was hot. Now that we're married, she dresses in baggy pants and sweat shirts and the sex is lukewarm. How can I get her to dress like a sex kitten again?
A: When was the last time you made your wife purr? There's nothing like a good orgasm to convince her to dress up now and again. Hardly anyone I know, who is married, acts the same way they did when they were just dating their spouse. When we're dating we tend to do things that we know our partner likes, even things that we wouldn't do normally or would make us feel uncomfortable. Then when we're married, we're more settled in and feel that we do not have to do all of those little "things" to please our spouse because we already "have" them. See where I'm going? I bet that there things that you too have stopped doing for her since you've been married.
So what to do? Well first of all you two need to set some time away every week to add some spice back into your sex life. Try new sexual positions, lotions, oils, toys -- places to have sex. During this couple time, you could take her to establishments where she would be required to dress up, or you two could role play and she can get all sexy for you. Add the fun back in and maybe she won't feel like being in baggy clothes all the time. Plus, with more fun in your relationship the sizzle can come back into your sex life.
If you put the effort in and tell your wife how good she looks all dolled up - it will pay off in spades!
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