The O Factor - I-Lube For Some Clit-Loving Excitement!

I lube, you lube, we all lube for slip, slidin` fun! Honestly, you cannot ever have enough lube. It doesn't matter what you do, how you do it or how many people enjoy the fun – gobs of lube rule. So slap me silly when I discovered another lube for my collection! The i-Lube was made exclusively for the vibe king – Doc Johnson!

Dropping a dash on my finger I smelled it – no scent except for the odor of the bottle, tasted it – no taste and moved it around between my index finger and thumb to discover it was not greasy. So far so good for this silicone based personal lubricant. But how could the lube in the 1.7 ml bottle hold up to the slip and slide test? I was about to find out!

With just a drop of i-Lube on my Diamond Swirl glass dildo, I set out on the road of discovery. When one has a rock solid dildo, great lube and a fertile imagination, it shouldn't take long to go from 0 to 100. Thankfully, I wasn't disappointed and although there wasn't much time between start and finish, this lube stayed the course from bored to orgasmic bliss. Another nice thing about this lube besides it being long lasting was that it wasn't sticky at all. I mean I was (ha ha) but the lube didn't start as or wind up as a sticky, tacky yuck like many lubes can be.

Drawbacks – not a one. If you need a lube with a silicone base, look no further!

You can pick the i-Lube for $7.90 at Spicy Toy Store (www.SpicyToyStore.com). This one will be a main stay for my glass dildos and silicone toys!

What about the "O" Factor?  

"O" Factor Rating: O O O O O

I'm slip slidin` away!

Have a great week and remember if you can't find your sexual groove, no one else will be able to find it either!

If you have a sex toy, naughty novelty or sensual oil that you'd like reviewed here at the "O" Factor, drop us a note at: [email protected].

Between The Sheets - December 30, 2007

Q: My boyfriend always wants to have oral sex but the fact is, he smells. What should I do?

A: Have you brought this point up with him that he smells? Or are you too worried you'd hurt his feelings? Think about you, if you need a close pin on your nose in order to go down, it's not worth the fuss is it? Thankfully, an easy solution is at hand, literally, that will not hurt your man's feelings and can get you both down to business and maybe even up the pleasure! Take a shower together!

Suds up and scrub each other down. Inch your way down-down -down! Nothing like a little sudsy foreplay to get the juices flowing! And once you scrub his body, paying particular attention to area of smelly offense - not only will he be horny, hard and willing -- but he will be clean. The smell would have taken a hike!

Now, the trick is to entice him to be clean for you on every oral occasion. by giving him the blow job of his life after this shower. After he's grateful, and he will be, tell him that if he wants more of that good lovin' that he'll have to smell squeaky clean before each and every time.

Oh, and don't forget to have him return the oral favor either because as you know – what goes around, ‘cums’ around!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Q: My boyfriend always wants to have oral sex but the fact is, he smells. What should I do?

A: Have you brought this point up with him that he smells? Or are you too worried you'd hurt his feelings? Think about you, if you need a close pin on your nose in order to go down, it's not worth the fuss is it? Thankfully, an easy solution is at hand, literally, that will not hurt your man's feelings and can get you both down to business and maybe even up the pleasure! Take a shower together!

Suds up and scrub each other down. Inch your way down-down -down! Nothing like a little sudsy foreplay to get the juices flowing! And once you scrub his body, paying particular attention to area of smelly offense - not only will he be horny, hard and willing -- but he will be clean. The smell would have taken a hike!

Now, the trick is to entice him to be clean for you on every oral occasion. by giving him the blow job of his life after this shower. After he's grateful, and he will be, tell him that if he wants more of that good lovin' that he'll have to smell squeaky clean before each and every time.

Oh, and don't forget to have him return the oral favor either because as you know – what goes around, ‘cums’ around!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Between The Sheets - December 29, 2007

Q: My boyfriend always wants to have oral sex but the fact is, he smells. What should I do?

A: Have you brought this point up with him that he smells? Or are you too worried you'd hurt his feelings? Think about you, if you need a close pin on your nose in order to go down, it's not worth the fuss is it? Thankfully, an easy solution is at hand, literally, that will not hurt your man's feelings and can get you both down to business and maybe even up the pleasure! Take a shower together!

Suds up and scrub each other down. Inch your way down-down -down! Nothing like a little sudsy foreplay to get the juices flowing! And once you scrub his body, paying particular attention to area of smelly offense - not only will he be horny, hard and willing -- but he will be clean. The smell would have taken a hike!

Now, the trick is to entice him to be clean for you on every oral occasion. by giving him the blow job of his life after this shower. After he's grateful, and he will be, tell him that if he wants more of that good lovin' that he'll have to smell squeaky clean before each and every time.

Oh, and don't forget to have him return the oral favor either because as you know – what goes around, ‘cums’ around!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Q: My boyfriend always wants to have oral sex but the fact is, he smells. What should I do?

A: Have you brought this point up with him that he smells? Or are you too worried you'd hurt his feelings? Think about you, if you need a close pin on your nose in order to go down, it's not worth the fuss is it? Thankfully, an easy solution is at hand, literally, that will not hurt your man's feelings and can get you both down to business and maybe even up the pleasure! Take a shower together!

Suds up and scrub each other down. Inch your way down-down -down! Nothing like a little sudsy foreplay to get the juices flowing! And once you scrub his body, paying particular attention to area of smelly offense - not only will he be horny, hard and willing -- but he will be clean. The smell would have taken a hike!

Now, the trick is to entice him to be clean for you on every oral occasion. by giving him the blow job of his life after this shower. After he's grateful, and he will be, tell him that if he wants more of that good lovin' that he'll have to smell squeaky clean before each and every time.

Oh, and don't forget to have him return the oral favor either because as you know – what goes around, ‘cums’ around!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Friday Sizzle December 28 - 31

Let's open up our book of naughty little entertainment ideas and see how you can party this New Year's Eve!

One year ends and another begins; much like your annual hopes, dreams, vows, promises, and resolutions. Who were you when the year was fresh and who are you now that it is fading? Explore these and other mysteries during Darklady's Erotic Masquerade NYE (www.darklady.com) at Club 6124 in Portland, Oregon. Wear a mask and/or costume to reflect or hide your true nature -- and show your charitable spirit by sharing your sensual truths with the Swingers.com camera crew - and raise money for Esther's Pantry! Bring a pet or human care product for Esther's Pantry/Tod's Corner and get $5 off your entry. Partially wheelchair accessible. Features Potluck, Cloakroom, Rubitorium, Massage Table, Welcoming Ceremony, Swingers.com "Be a Masked Porn Star for Charity," Portrait & Erotic Stills by Bryan Grimes, Capricious Costume Prizes from Darklady, Dance Tunes by DJ Darknezzz, Non-Alcoholic Bubbly at Midnight, Birthday fantasies for December, January & February, and You! RSVP Absolutely Required.

Ring in the New Year at Pleasure Bound Munch (www.pleasurebound.org) in Sacramento, California! Pleasure Bound is a Sacramento-based lifestyle group specializing in erotically themed BDSM parties and events with an up-scale atmosphere. Munches are a vanilla event, which gives our patrons a chance to socialize in a friendly setting and gives newcomers a comfortable place to meet and get to know the members of their group. Munches are held at a well-known vanilla establishment (a restaurant) so dress and act accordingly. For details regarding our next Munch, go to their site, click on the contact page and send email to PleasureBoundParties. Ask for Munch Information.

Welcome in 2008 with sexy, flirty and fun at Delicious and Kiss Combined New Year's Blowout (www.thedeliciousparty.com) San Francisco (RSVP for location). Delicious is an on-premise meet 'n' greet event at a luxurious space in the Mission District of San Francisco. With great, booty shaking music, friendly hosts and plenty of space to meet and mingle in an absolutely no pressure environment! Run by the same organizers, Club Kiss is a private party of hand-selected couples and women looking to explore and engage in a more open aspect to their relationship. A woman-centric vibe and a careful pre-screening process ensures that you will be surrounded by the hottest and sexiest party-goers all night long and well into the morning. Because this is a private venue, there are no restrictions on nudity or sexual behavior. All that is asked is that you are always mindful and respectful of your fellow guests and heed their boundaries. For New Year's Eve, these two excellent parties are combining into one for a Club Kiss - Club Delicious New Year's Eve Blowout that you absolutely do not want to miss! Check the websites for details, and be sure to get your reservations early as this event is guaranteed to sell out!

Have a blast putting the sizzle into your weekend no matter what kind of entertainment you find yourself enjoying!

Have an erotic event, movie, live theater, restaurant/resort or party you'd like mentioned? Then send it to: [email protected].

Between The Sheets - December 27, 2007

Q: I know that this is going to sound backwards, but my husband doesn't want to have sex but maybe 2 or 3 times a month. I could go 2 or 3 times a week! What can I do short of divorcing or cheating on my husband?

A: It's not as backwards as you think. I love sex -- so does my husband -- but my drive is getting stronger as I get older where his is in decline. Men hit their sexual peak early in life, women - much later in the late 30's - early 40's. This could be why many women go after, and get, younger men.

Cheating never leads to anywhere but divorce court. The grass is greener only over septic tanks, so unless you want to divorce keep your hands to yourself.

That's the key you know, keeping your hands to yourself. When you're horny and your husband isn't, grab some self-indulgent time. There are so many toys, movies, books and audio out there to stimulate your brain that locking yourself away for some fantasy time is a great way to release, keep your sanity and save your marriage.

If you find over time that you need more physical contact, it is wise to divorce first and then go in search of, instead of the other way around.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Q: I know that this is going to sound backwards, but my husband doesn't want to have sex but maybe 2 or 3 times a month. I could go 2 or 3 times a week! What can I do short of divorcing or cheating on my husband?

A: It's not as backwards as you think. I love sex -- so does my husband -- but my drive is getting stronger as I get older where his is in decline. Men hit their sexual peak early in life, women - much later in the late 30's - early 40's. This could be why many women go after, and get, younger men.

Cheating never leads to anywhere but divorce court. The grass is greener only over septic tanks, so unless you want to divorce keep your hands to yourself.

That's the key you know, keeping your hands to yourself. When you're horny and your husband isn't, grab some self-indulgent time. There are so many toys, movies, books and audio out there to stimulate your brain that locking yourself away for some fantasy time is a great way to release, keep your sanity and save your marriage.

If you find over time that you need more physical contact, it is wise to divorce first and then go in search of, instead of the other way around.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Between The Sheets - December 26, 2007

Q: I'm a bi-sexual with a small clitoris. No matter if I am with a male or female, I always hear how small it is. Is my small clit something that I should be concerned about?

A: I simply do not get why size matters to anyone - in any situation. You know how us women say that size doesn't matter when we talk about men and their packages, well by and large we mean it, that it's really what you can do with it that counts? Same theory applies here with you. It's not the size that matters but what pleasures it does for you.

Have you had any trouble having an orgasm? I assume not as you didn't mention it. As long as you can come away satisfied, isn’t that really all that matters?!

The next time someone comments on your wonderfully small clitty, you can reply, "She may be small, but she's mighty!" Your partner will wonder just how mighty she can be and will soon get to work to discover the power of your small, yet fully-functional, package.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Q: I'm a bi-sexual with a small clitoris. No matter if I am with a male or female, I always hear how small it is. Is my small clit something that I should be concerned about?

A: I simply do not get why size matters to anyone - in any situation. You know how us women say that size doesn't matter when we talk about men and their packages, well by and large we mean it, that it's really what you can do with it that counts? Same theory applies here with you. It's not the size that matters but what pleasures it does for you.

Have you had any trouble having an orgasm? I assume not as you didn't mention it. As long as you can come away satisfied, isn’t that really all that matters?!

The next time someone comments on your wonderfully small clitty, you can reply, "She may be small, but she's mighty!" Your partner will wonder just how mighty she can be and will soon get to work to discover the power of your small, yet fully-functional, package.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Between The Sheets - December 25, 2007

Q: My husband is the only man I've ever had sex with and I've been disappointed from day one. It's not that he doesn't try to please me, but I've never had an orgasm. Any advice?

A: You know - this no orgasm thing is a common dilemma among women, so take comfort in that you are not alone with this one. Somewhere tucked away into the back of your unconsciousness you have had a little kernel planted that tells you that only filthy girls enjoy sex or it's for reproduction only. I've been there, in the majority, with that useless kernel and I'm here to tell you that since I've relaxed and gotten real with myself, that kernel has disappeared and I feel 200% better.

You are already in a position of promise to reach "O" heaven as you have a man who wants to please you. But before hubby gets involved, you need to teach yourself and relax enough to have an orgasm. You need to experience it first hand - pun intended. Find some quiet alone time and pop in a CD, read some erotica stories, flip through books on sexual positions or watch a dirty movie. Get yourself hot and bothered anyway you desire.

Now it's time for the hands-on solo pleasure. Give your clit some serious "me" time, work on her, tantalize her and she will respond. Explore the inner you with a finger or two - really work it out. If the mere thought of direct hands on exploration makes you cringe, then there are hundreds of sex toys that can help you out. Not sure what sex toy to buy? Well, feel free to check out our “O” Factor every Monday to see if anything tickles your fancy – pun intended again!

After you are comfortable enough to climax on your own, this is when I suggest you get your hubby involved. Tell him or show him what you like by moving his hands/mouth to areas that please you. Be vocal, and be confident. I know, just like any man, that he will be like putty to anything you suggest – believe me!

Discover the world of orgasms and I promise you that your sex life will never be the same again!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected] .

Q: My husband is the only man I've ever had sex with and I've been disappointed from day one. It's not that he doesn't try to please me, but I've never had an orgasm. Any advice?

A: You know - this no orgasm thing is a common dilemma among women, so take comfort in that you are not alone with this one. Somewhere tucked away into the back of your unconsciousness you have had a little kernel planted that tells you that only filthy girls enjoy sex or it's for reproduction only. I've been there, in the majority, with that useless kernel and I'm here to tell you that since I've relaxed and gotten real with myself, that kernel has disappeared and I feel 200% better.

You are already in a position of promise to reach "O" heaven as you have a man who wants to please you. But before hubby gets involved, you need to teach yourself and relax enough to have an orgasm. You need to experience it first hand - pun intended. Find some quiet alone time and pop in a CD, read some erotica stories, flip through books on sexual positions or watch a dirty movie. Get yourself hot and bothered anyway you desire.

Now it's time for the hands-on solo pleasure. Give your clit some serious "me" time, work on her, tantalize her and she will respond. Explore the inner you with a finger or two - really work it out. If the mere thought of direct hands on exploration makes you cringe, then there are hundreds of sex toys that can help you out. Not sure what sex toy to buy? Well, feel free to check out our “O” Factor every Monday to see if anything tickles your fancy – pun intended again!

After you are comfortable enough to climax on your own, this is when I suggest you get your hubby involved. Tell him or show him what you like by moving his hands/mouth to areas that please you. Be vocal, and be confident. I know, just like any man, that he will be like putty to anything you suggest – believe me!

Discover the world of orgasms and I promise you that your sex life will never be the same again!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected] .

A Pocket Rocket For My Clit!

Just in time for Christmas - this was a toy that I heard a lot about and couldn't wait to get my hands on one. The package was dropped off, I raced to get it open but I had to fight the packaging tooth and nail in order to get to it! I betcha a man designed the packaging, don't you? After a frustrating time, my Pocket Rocket was free!

I liked the way this felt in my hand. Small and discreet, plus it was convenient enough to slip in my pocket, hence the name of this clitoral powerhouse - Pocket Rocket. I'm sure that it will be easy to take it with me when I travel. Intensity wise it has a strong presence with one speed. If you do not like an energized zing directly onto your clit, I highly suggest you move it around the outer lips. This model came with one head loaded with external nubs - other more expensive models come with three heads for a change in sensations; from a smooth ride to a rough one. With the one head though, I was given a nice wave of clitoral bliss. It didn't push me over the edge, but it got me revved up enough to need to finish before I went on to something else! Pocket Rocket produces two models, one that can go into water and the other cannot - this one can go for a swim. Make sure you note the difference before you purchase!

There are a few downsides of this baby. Only one speed which annoyed me and it did not arrive with a battery with it - thankfully 1 AA was easy enough to find. It makes too much noise -- I thought my ex-husband was here using his electric shaver (perish the thought), but you can muffle the sound by diving under the covers. I wish that it came with or one had the option to purchase, a sleeve to make it insert-able.

Your own Pocket Rocket will run you around $9.90 depending where you buy it online, such as from Spicy Toy Store (www.SpicyToyStore.com/). I think that I will keep this toy in my luggage so it can travel with me. But we still have to ask ourselves the question...

What about the "O" Factor?

"O" Factor Rating: O O O O O

Houston, we need variable speeds to rev up the orgasm factor!

Have a great week and remember if you can't find your sexual groove, no one else will be able to find it either!

If you have a sex toy, naughty novelty or sensual oil that you'd like reviewed here at the "O" Factor, drop us a note at: [email protected].

Between The Sheets - December 23, 2007

Q: By the time I come home from work, make dinner, feed the dogs, do some housework and go to bed, it's about midnight. I'm exhausted. I used to love sex, but now it is such a bother. How can I get my sex drive back?

A: God can I relate! You are so not alone with this one. I bet 9/10 women in a committed relationship feel this same way many days a month. I know I did for far too long. That is until I took matters into my own hands.

There are two things here that have to happen: 1) Your partner needs to help out more around the house. 2) You need to find some "me" time and soon! For the house work, you're going to have to sit down and talk to your partner. Tell them what you need, what you want. No one is a mind reader. If that doesn't work, then threaten to go on strike. No more meals cooked, no more laundry cleaned, no more nothing until you're met half way.

At the same time, you need to carve out that "me" time and become reacquainted with yourself. If push comes to shove, go into your bathroom and lock the door. Listen to a CD, read a filthy novel or take in a portable DVD player and watch a movie like Sex, Lies and Videotape. Become reacquainted with yourself, get to know and love the physical inner you. If you are not a hands-on type of woman, there are plenty of sex toys for the bathroom. They even have a rubber ducky for adults!

Before you know it you will be more relaxed, happy and be back into your sexual groove and once you get it… do not let it go!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected] .

Q: By the time I come home from work, make dinner, feed the dogs, do some housework and go to bed, it's about midnight. I'm exhausted. I used to love sex, but now it is such a bother. How can I get my sex drive back?

A: God can I relate! You are so not alone with this one. I bet 9/10 women in a committed relationship feel this same way many days a month. I know I did for far too long. That is until I took matters into my own hands.

There are two things here that have to happen: 1) Your partner needs to help out more around the house. 2) You need to find some "me" time and soon! For the house work, you're going to have to sit down and talk to your partner. Tell them what you need, what you want. No one is a mind reader. If that doesn't work, then threaten to go on strike. No more meals cooked, no more laundry cleaned, no more nothing until you're met half way.

At the same time, you need to carve out that "me" time and become reacquainted with yourself. If push comes to shove, go into your bathroom and lock the door. Listen to a CD, read a filthy novel or take in a portable DVD player and watch a movie like Sex, Lies and Videotape. Become reacquainted with yourself, get to know and love the physical inner you. If you are not a hands-on type of woman, there are plenty of sex toys for the bathroom. They even have a rubber ducky for adults!

Before you know it you will be more relaxed, happy and be back into your sexual groove and once you get it… do not let it go!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected] .

Between The Sheets - December 22, 2007

Q: My husband is really into anal sex. I tried once, about 5 years ago and hated it. To me it feels dirty and too unnatural. I'm worried that if he isn't already finding it elsewhere, he will be soon. What can I do to get over my hang-ups?

A: To me, my butt has a hole that an exit door only. But that's me. I know many women who love anal sex and so do their male counterparts. There's nothing dirty or unnatural about it as long as it is a mutual act performed by two consenting adults.

The way to get over hang-ups is to first ask yourself if you really want to. You have to want to change not for someone else, but because YOU want to. Change done for the behalf of another person will never last no matter what it is and no matter who it is for.

Now if your answer is that yes you really want to get over your hang-ups for you, then here are some suggestions: 1) during foreplay, let your husband lube up his finger and allow him to stimulate you anally 2) buy a Rabbit vibrator for your own exploration as it is for insertion as well a either clit or anal stimulation 3) put on a strap on dildo and pleasure your husband.

The only way to get over your hang-ups is to keep trying to overcome them. If you find out that no matter what you do, you still feel uncomfortable, then stop trying.

To try and please your husband is a wonderful gift to him, but to do so at the lose of your comfort is no gift at all.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].

Q: My husband is really into anal sex. I tried once, about 5 years ago and hated it. To me it feels dirty and too unnatural. I'm worried that if he isn't already finding it elsewhere, he will be soon. What can I do to get over my hang-ups?

A: To me, my butt has a hole that an exit door only. But that's me. I know many women who love anal sex and so do their male counterparts. There's nothing dirty or unnatural about it as long as it is a mutual act performed by two consenting adults.

The way to get over hang-ups is to first ask yourself if you really want to. You have to want to change not for someone else, but because YOU want to. Change done for the behalf of another person will never last no matter what it is and no matter who it is for.

Now if your answer is that yes you really want to get over your hang-ups for you, then here are some suggestions: 1) during foreplay, let your husband lube up his finger and allow him to stimulate you anally 2) buy a Rabbit vibrator for your own exploration as it is for insertion as well a either clit or anal stimulation 3) put on a strap on dildo and pleasure your husband.

The only way to get over your hang-ups is to keep trying to overcome them. If you find out that no matter what you do, you still feel uncomfortable, then stop trying.

To try and please your husband is a wonderful gift to him, but to do so at the lose of your comfort is no gift at all.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets, drop us an email at [email protected].