Friday Sizzle November 30 – December 2

Let's open up our book of naughty little entertainment ideas and see what we can sample this weekend.

The hell with Octoberfest – it's Novemberfest time! From 9 pm to 1 am on November 30th, head out to the Southpaw in Brooklyn to catch The Burlesque Alliance (www.theburlesquealliance.com) as they make this Fall a scorcher! Catch Novemberfest for sexy autumn outfits and alcohol-fueled fun! The Burlesque Alliance consists of Wasabassco, Pinchbottom, Sweet & Nasty, Gigi La Femme, Angie Pontani. Between them, these organizations have produced hundreds of shows and received dozens of awards.

On December 1st, get some Delicious (www.thedeliciousparty.com) at an on-premise meet 'n' greet event at a luxurious space in the Mission District of San Francisco. RSVP for location, and at 10pm (doors close at 11:30pm) for only $60 per couple, single women $20, you can meet with the sexy, flirty and fun! With great, booty shaking music, friendly hosts and plenty of space to meet and mingle in an absolutely no pressure environment! BayCouples.com members get half price entrance!

Do you find yourself n Bulgaria on December 2nd and have a fetish you want to share? Then head out to Bulgaria's hottest fetish spot, Fetish Club Sofia (www.fetishstripclub.com)! The Fetish Club Sofia was specially created for those fetish lovers who like to share kinky fetish fantasies, to flirt, drink and meet like-minded girls. It is the newest, state-of-the-art strip club in town. The place is furnished with red leather sofas lending itself to a relaxing and erotic atmosphere. It offers guests an upscale, intimate atmosphere perfect for flirting with our fetish girls and partying with friends!

Have a blast putting the sizzle into your weekend no matter what kind of entertainment you find yourself enjoying!

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Between The Sheets - November 29, 2007

Q: Can you tell me what scents can turn on my man this holiday season?

A: I love this web site called ScienceofSmell.com as they are always testing to figure out the why and what of smell. They did such a test to find out what smells got the sexual flow moving faster in men. Hands down the winner was pumpkin of all tings. This scent alone increased the arousal 40% in men. Runners up were doughnuts, cola, buttered popcorn, cranberry, lavender, black licorice and lily of the valley.

I'm surprised the scent of sports didn't get the penis moving. But since it's not om the list, it appears that the smell of food is the way to go!

Bon Appetit!

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Between The Sheets - November 28, 2007

Q: My husband and I want to bring another woman into our bedroom. How do we go about finding a willing woman?

A: Finding a willing woman isn't as hard as you think. You can a bar and pick one up. There are swinger clubs with nights out that do have single people attending just so they can be a third wheel. Ask friends – they'll know. Go online – Adultfriendfinder.com will produce many results.

But let me give you a word of advice before you go down this route. No matter how open a marriage is, when a third party is brought in it always causes trouble. One person can get attached to that third person and the other spouse feel slighted. What happens if one of you has a good time and the other doesn't – and the person who had a good time wants to do it again? Is the spouse who had a bad time going to go along with it? What kind of resentment do you think it will spawn between the couple if one is doing something that they do not like?

This is a situation when three is a crowd. Think about your decision carefully.

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Between The Sheets - November 27, 2007

Q: I can tell that my girlfriend is faking an orgasm every time we have sex. Why is that?

A: How do you know she is faking? When you knew she was having a “real” orgasm, did she sound different? Act different? If there's a difference and you can honestly tell, there may be a few reasons why.

She doesn't want to hurt your feelings. She knows that her being satisfied is important to you and doesn't want you to think that you've failed at anything. Which, of course, is how she knows you would feel if she didn't have the big “O”. Let her know that your feelings will not be hurt if she doesn't have the same experience as you. But that you would like to know one way or another so you can improve her experience next time.

Besides not wanting to hurt your feelings, it could be that you are not pleasing her in the spots that give her pleasure. Ask her what she wants. If she's not verbal enough, then have her move your hands or body to where she wants you. It could be that she hasn't pleasured herself enough through masturbation to even know where her pleasure points are located. Encourage self-discovery.

Maybe she's overstressed or has a lot on her mind that won't allow her to relax. Take your time with foreplay. Create a mood for her to unwind. No quickies allowed for a while.

Take the time to relax her, to have her open up and share with you what she likes and dislikes. Do this, and you two can both have an orgasmic experience!

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The O Factor - It's A Dirty Job, But Someone Has To Do It!

Sex toys – can't seem to have enough or to test enough. So I guess you could call me a sex toy whore? Cool, I'll take the label and be damn proud of it. But I wouldn't be a proper sex toy whore if the toys weren't scrubbed down and cleaned. After all, I don't use them just once and then toss them in a box never to be seen again! A sex toy should never be used more than once without giving it a good cleaning – especially if you shared toys with a partner! I had heard good things about the Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner from the Berman Center. I decided to give it a go!

In my sex toy collection, I am the proud owner of many fun, fancy and erotic devices that can be cleaned & sterilized just by washing them in the top rack of my dishwasher. Such as: glass, acrylic, stainless steel and 100% silicone. These toys could also be cleaned with hot water & soap or by boiling.

My sex toy collection also holds some very porous playthings made from silicone blends, jelly rubber and latex (although not too many latex) and super porous items such as CyberSkin (brand name), SoftSkin, UR3 and other skin-like material. Because it was next to impossible to find out if these toys were truly cleaned. I decided to use my anti-bacterial test subject on these toys!

My Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner from the Berman Center responded wonderfully to my sex toy cleaning as it had Triclosan, an anti-bacterial ingredient, included in the bottle. The non-aerosol cleaner left no film residue and it dried quickly. I was also pleased that it was scent and color free.

No drawbacks. However, if you leaned towards the side of green for your cleaning products, this would not be a good fit.

Your own Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner from the Berman Center will run you about $6.98 - $7.95 depending where you buy it, such as from Libida (www.Libida.com). This fabo cleaner has a permanent spot.

What about the "O" Factor?

"O" Factor Rating: O O O O O

If cleanliness is close to Godliness, I've got one foot in to being a Divinity!

Have a great week and remember if you can't find your sexual groove, no one else will be able to find it either!

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Between The Sheets - November 25, 2007

Q: My cock is 6 ½ inches long when it's hard. Am I too small?

A: What? Unless you're ¼ inch girth wise I'd say you're above average. If you want to talk sizes, try this one on – the average male penis (hard) is 5 to 6 inches. The average penis (soft) is 2 to 4 inches with the smallest on record being 4/5 of an inch and the largest a humongous 11 inches that my vagina would run away from!

So you see – you're above average. Bask in it's glory!

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Between The Sheets - November 24, 2007

Q: I want to be naughty and give my bf of 7 months head when he least expects it. Any suggestions?

A: One of my favorite places to slide a cock in my mouth is in a car – while it's moving. Now I wouldn't recommend doing this as he's zooming down the interstate doing 65 mph and above. After all, he may be distracted. But going through town it's great!

Another place is in a bar/pub's bathroom – just watch where you put your knees! You could try in a department store's dressing room or in a high-rises elevator.

There's always the back yard, deck or patio, kitchen or living room. Anywhere you decide to drop without warning and put his cock in your mouth – will be an erotic experience for him.

Want to take it up another notch? Then right before you place him in your mouth add either the candy pop rocks or a menthol cough drop (like Halls) both will simply blow him away! Pun intended!

Happy bobbing!

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Friday Sizzle November 23 - 25

Let's open up our book of naughty little entertainment ideas and see what we can sample this weekend.

Party hardy from November 23 – 25 at Erotica-UK (www.erotica-uk.com) in Olympia, London! Dita Von Teese headlines the 10th Anniversary at Erotica 2007. Also not to be missed: heavenly Angels In Uniform, steamy Fantasy Boys, decadent Erotica Ball produced by Torture Garden, specialist performers, stunning lingerie, corsetry & fetish wear, fascinating literature, erotic art, toys & gifts. On 24 November, Torture Garden will be producing the Erotica Ball as part of the Erotica-UK exhibition.

On November 24th, enjoy drag cabaret at its best with Fauxgirls! (www.fauxgirls.com) at the Deco Lounge! This event showcased both glamor and camp! The Fauxgirls! revue features San Francisco's finest female impersonators: Victoria Secret, Alexandria, Anjelica Devarox, Davida Ashton, Daffney Deluxe, Mini Minerva, Shelly Wilde, Pinky Bubbles, Chanel and special guest stars, plus their very own "boy toy," Bobby Ashton! Show time is always at 10pm. Never a cover charge for Fauxgirls! Reservations are recommended, and may be made at 415-621-3158, or online.

Have a question about domination or submission but were afraid to ask? Well then on Novemeber 25th, come on out to The D/s Discussion Groups, Dominant and Submissive Clinics (www.threshold.org) in Los Angeles (RSVP for venue). The discussion groups are led by different community members each week to give different perspectives. These are informal, relaxed "Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About BDSM, But Were Afraid to Ask" discussions. If you have been in the scene for awhile and would like to give back to the community, please consider attending these meetings to discuss your own experiences and passing on your knowledge. If you plan to attend, please RSVP to Ms Diana at dianahtlne at aol.com.

Have a blast putting the sizzle into your weekend no matter what kind of entertainment you find yourself enjoying!

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Between The Sheets - November 22, 2007

Q: My wife works two jobs and I work one job with overtime. She's tired most nights and doesn't want to have sex. How can I get her interested again? My hand is getting tired.

A: How about the dishes, laundry and cooking dinner? It's a proven fact that men get one more hour of relaxation time than women per day and that men sleep better in bed next to their partner while women sleep better alone.

You would be amazed on how a woman's sex drive can get it's groove back when they are not overworked and bone tired. So instead of complaining – help her out and she'll feel more like having sex.

Think of the housework as foreplay – women do.

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Between The Sheets - November 21, 2007

Q: My boyfriend has been nagging me to stick his cock in my ass. I've said no, but he's persistent. What should I do?

A: A no is a no. If you don't want it or want to try it –it's your prerogative. If he still keeps bothering you about it = dump his ass and find a new man who as respect for your feelings.

Any man (or woman) who pressure their parter for sex in any form is more interested in their self and their satisfaction then their partner's satisfaction. And that ain't right!

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