Friday Sizzle - San Francisco Fetish Ball, Filthy Gorgeous Burlesque, Gold Rush Burlesque!

Let's open up our book of naughty little entertainment ideas and see what we can sample the upcoming week.

From March 6th - 8th put on your best fetish wear and head to the 7th Annual San Francisco Fetish Ball Weekend 2008 (www.sffetishball.com) in – of course – San Fran! The San Francisco Fetish Ball continues to grow, both in attendance & importance and has become known as one of The Premier Fetish Events on the globe as well as the largest fetish event in the states with attendees traveling to the event from all parts of the world. Thursday, March 6th is the SFFB Gallery Show; Club Enslaved goes down Friday, March 7, and the San Francisco Fetish Ball is Saturday, March 8. Sponsored by Madame S and Mister S Leathers.

On March 7th, go see the Filthy Gorgeous Burlesque (www.thirstygirlproductions.com) at Corio Supper Club in NYC! Says event founder Jen Gapay of Thirsty Girl Productions: "Filthy Gorgeous Burlesque stands on its own as the only event of its kind and caliber in New York City. It's dinner, it's theater and it's burlesque-no one goes away unsatisfied." Visit this seething cauldron den of burlesque every Friday at Corrio Supper Club, where guest hosts have included Murray Hill, Scotty the Blue Bunny, the World Famous *BOB* and more.

Take in the gold rush on March 11th at the Gold Rush Burlesque (www.starshineburlesque.com) at Lotus, 409 W. 14th Street @ 9th Avenue. Enjoy dinner theater with spontaneous aperitif for the eyes. Bursts of burlesque start at 10:15 as morsels of beauty and glitter continue in four installments until 11:30, allowing you to get home early, if you like, or to stay for the Lotus Gold Digger party... a night of classic New York hip hop and rock. A sampler of sexiness, each skit lasts from 3 to 7 minutes, with 10-15 minute intervals between acts. The concept is "sexy," "bold," "vaudeville" in dim-dinner lighting to an original Thai-urban Asian menu created by Lotus Executive Chef Filomino. In between the performances, a DJ spins rock music and patrons can cool off with a drink at the bar. A few reserved tables with bottle service also are available.

Have a blast putting the sizzle into your week no matter what kind of entertainment you find yourself enjoying!

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Between The Sheets - Dressing Like A Sex Kitten!

Q: When my wife and I were dating, she used to dress sexy and our sex life was hot. Now that we're married, she dresses in baggy pants and sweat shirts and the sex is lukewarm. How can I get her to dress like a sex kitten again?

A: When was the last time you made your wife purr? There's nothing like a good orgasm to convince her to dress up now and again. Hardly anyone I know, who is married, acts the same way they did when they were just dating their spouse. When we're dating we tend to do things that we know our partner likes, even things that we wouldn't do normally or would make us feel uncomfortable. Then when we're married, we're more settled in and feel that we do not have to do all of those little "things" to please our spouse because we already "have" them. See where I'm going? I bet that there things that you too have stopped doing for her since you've been married.

So what to do? Well first of all you two need to set some time away every week to add some spice back into your sex life. Try new sexual positions, lotions, oils, toys -- places to have sex. During this couple time, you could take her to establishments where she would be required to dress up, or you two could role play and she can get all sexy for you. Add the fun back in and maybe she won't feel like being in baggy clothes all the time. Plus, with more fun in your relationship the sizzle can come back into your sex life.

If you put the effort in and tell your wife how good she looks all dolled up - it will pay off in spades!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

Q: When my wife and I were dating, she used to dress sexy and our sex life was hot. Now that we're married, she dresses in baggy pants and sweat shirts and the sex is lukewarm. How can I get her to dress like a sex kitten again?

A: When was the last time you made your wife purr? There's nothing like a good orgasm to convince her to dress up now and again. Hardly anyone I know, who is married, acts the same way they did when they were just dating their spouse. When we're dating we tend to do things that we know our partner likes, even things that we wouldn't do normally or would make us feel uncomfortable. Then when we're married, we're more settled in and feel that we do not have to do all of those little "things" to please our spouse because we already "have" them. See where I'm going? I bet that there things that you too have stopped doing for her since you've been married.

So what to do? Well first of all you two need to set some time away every week to add some spice back into your sex life. Try new sexual positions, lotions, oils, toys -- places to have sex. During this couple time, you could take her to establishments where she would be required to dress up, or you two could role play and she can get all sexy for you. Add the fun back in and maybe she won't feel like being in baggy clothes all the time. Plus, with more fun in your relationship the sizzle can come back into your sex life.

If you put the effort in and tell your wife how good she looks all dolled up - it will pay off in spades!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

Between The Sheets - STD's Between Women!

Q: Can STD’s be passed woman to woman? Thank you.

A: Oh my God yes they can! I am amazed on how many lesbians I know that do not take safe sex precautions because they view STD’s to be a heterosexual and/or man to man problem.

The biggest three STD’s you need to be aware about is HPV (Genital Warts), Herpes and HIV/AIDS. Then there is Hepatitis, Lice and Yeast Infections. Practice safe sex – use Dental Damns (find in sex shops and medical supply stores – some drug stores & big shopping stores are starting to carry them too) if practicing cunnilingus and analingus. You can also use Saran Wrap (but it can get torn) and can make Dental Damns from condoms or latex gloves.

An ounce of prevention can save you a lifetime of heartache.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

Q: Can STD’s be passed woman to woman? Thank you.

A: Oh my God yes they can! I am amazed on how many lesbians I know that do not take safe sex precautions because they view STD’s to be a heterosexual and/or man to man problem.

The biggest three STD’s you need to be aware about is HPV (Genital Warts), Herpes and HIV/AIDS. Then there is Hepatitis, Lice and Yeast Infections. Practice safe sex – use Dental Damns (find in sex shops and medical supply stores – some drug stores & big shopping stores are starting to carry them too) if practicing cunnilingus and analingus. You can also use Saran Wrap (but it can get torn) and can make Dental Damns from condoms or latex gloves.

An ounce of prevention can save you a lifetime of heartache.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

Between The Sheets - The Girl Says No To Anal Sex

Q: How can I get my girl to like anal sex more? She let me do it to her once, but now it's a no go.

A: Some people just like to keep an out door - out. Know what I mean? But since she at least gave it a go once means she cares for you and if approached correctly, may give it another try.

This is all about what makes her comfortable. The last time, did you use enough lube - like gobs of it? Start with sliding your fingers in first to ease her into it? Or did you use some lube and just shove your cock up her butt? There's a huge difference here. If you did the latter, no wonder she's anally shy.

Talk to her about it. Get a bunch of lube (AKA gobs), place the lube on your fingers and start from there taking your cues from how she responds. Easy in, easy out -- that'll do it. Once she realizes that there is pleasure that can be derived from this sex act, hopefully she'll let you move on to your cock being lubed up and entered. But the key to this is taking it slow and being aware at all times of her comfort level.

If you play your lube right, her out door only can transfer into a revolving door.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

Q: How can I get my girl to like anal sex more? She let me do it to her once, but now it's a no go.

A: Some people just like to keep an out door - out. Know what I mean? But since she at least gave it a go once means she cares for you and if approached correctly, may give it another try.

This is all about what makes her comfortable. The last time, did you use enough lube - like gobs of it? Start with sliding your fingers in first to ease her into it? Or did you use some lube and just shove your cock up her butt? There's a huge difference here. If you did the latter, no wonder she's anally shy.

Talk to her about it. Get a bunch of lube (AKA gobs), place the lube on your fingers and start from there taking your cues from how she responds. Easy in, easy out -- that'll do it. Once she realizes that there is pleasure that can be derived from this sex act, hopefully she'll let you move on to your cock being lubed up and entered. But the key to this is taking it slow and being aware at all times of her comfort level.

If you play your lube right, her out door only can transfer into a revolving door.

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

The O Factor - The Orgasmic Cone!

Since January 2007, when I started to do my regular Monday night sex chats on The L Word, one of the first things that I would ask everyone was if they tried the new sex toy - The Cone. It was either - no - or they didn't know what it was. I saw this toy online and it looked so dang cool. How could no one had tried it yet? I was frantic -- I had to know how this pink-shaped cone did for a woman's sexual satisfaction. It drove me nuts -- and then it happened -- the Gods smiled down upon me and the mail dude dropped The Cone off at my house! I was ecstatic! What a way to spend my birthday!

It looked fabo just sitting inside it's pink cone-shaped box. On the outside there are eight suggestions for positions to use this 16 speed (yes honey -- I said 16 speed) powerhouse. The speeds go through straight vibes, pulsating ripples, a variety of mix-up vibratory sensations and finally program 16 -- orgasm mode! I ripped open the box and there it was in all it's glory -- a wonderfully pink silicone cone. It's hands-free design reminded me of a pyramid, only with a round bottom.

I had to try it out first on my clit. It was sort of uncomfortable at the start, but within moments I found that sweet spot and just let the vibes roll. The two buttons at the base of the cone which control the vibe speed, aren't the easiest to get into this position - however - it was very easy just to set it on one program and simply enjoy the bliss. But I didn't want to finish this way, although it would have been easy to do.

I switched positions, slipped on some lube and wedged the base between the back side of me and the wall. This was a very delectable sensation. Not only did my vaginal walls vibe, but indirectly so did my clit and my rear end. Getting to switch the program speeds in this position was difficult, although I did manage to do just that. If only this baby had a mount for the wall, it would have been great to be able to move around more in an in & out fashion without dropping The Cone. Again, I could of ended this experiment right here - but I just had to try one more position.

This time I sat it on my bed and climbed on board. The controls were easy to get to and I was able to switch out many different speeds to find out which ones I loved the best (FYI - speeds 8, 10, 12, 13, 14 and 16 were my favorites)! In this position with the choices of speeds - it was far too easy to climax and land a powerful "O"! Needless to say -- when all was said and done I laid back on my bed with a big ole smile on my face!

This puppy does have a few drawbacks -- it's bulky. So although it's an insert-able vibe, you can't thrust with it - at least with your hands. In some positions it was also difficult to hit the vibe program buttons to change the level of intensity. Plus- it takes 3 CC batteries. Yep - that's what I said -- 3 CC batteries.

But I'll be honest with you - the pluses with this silicone powerhouse highly outweigh the drawbacks. Its innovated design just rocks and the speeds are to die for.

Your own The Cone will run you about £49.95 to $77.95 depending where you buy it online, such as SexToys (http://sextoys.co.uk/ or http://www.sextoys-usa.com/). I can't leave this baby out and it is kind of big to stash in my toy box. Nevertheless, it will stay close by -- VERY close by. But we still have to ask ourselves the question...

What about the "O" Factor?

"O" Factor Rating: O O O O O

Who needs a partner if you've got one of these?!

Have a great week and remember if you can't find your sexual groove, no one else will be able to find it either!

If you have a sex toy, naughty novelty or sensual oil that you'd like reviewed here at the "O" Factor, drop us a note at: ofactor@whispersmedia.com.

Since January 2007, when I started to do my regular Monday night sex chats on The L Word, one of the first things that I would ask everyone was if they tried the new sex toy - The Cone. It was either - no - or they didn't know what it was. I saw this toy online and it looked so dang cool. How could no one had tried it yet? I was frantic -- I had to know how this pink-shaped cone did for a woman's sexual satisfaction. It drove me nuts -- and then it happened -- the Gods smiled down upon me and the mail dude dropped The Cone off at my house! I was ecstatic! What a way to spend my birthday!

It looked fabo just sitting inside it's pink cone-shaped box. On the outside there are eight suggestions for positions to use this 16 speed (yes honey -- I said 16 speed) powerhouse. The speeds go through straight vibes, pulsating ripples, a variety of mix-up vibratory sensations and finally program 16 -- orgasm mode! I ripped open the box and there it was in all it's glory -- a wonderfully pink silicone cone. It's hands-free design reminded me of a pyramid, only with a round bottom.

I had to try it out first on my clit. It was sort of uncomfortable at the start, but within moments I found that sweet spot and just let the vibes roll. The two buttons at the base of the cone which control the vibe speed, aren't the easiest to get into this position - however - it was very easy just to set it on one program and simply enjoy the bliss. But I didn't want to finish this way, although it would have been easy to do.

I switched positions, slipped on some lube and wedged the base between the back side of me and the wall. This was a very delectable sensation. Not only did my vaginal walls vibe, but indirectly so did my clit and my rear end. Getting to switch the program speeds in this position was difficult, although I did manage to do just that. If only this baby had a mount for the wall, it would have been great to be able to move around more in an in & out fashion without dropping The Cone. Again, I could of ended this experiment right here - but I just had to try one more position.

This time I sat it on my bed and climbed on board. The controls were easy to get to and I was able to switch out many different speeds to find out which ones I loved the best (FYI - speeds 8, 10, 12, 13, 14 and 16 were my favorites)! In this position with the choices of speeds - it was far too easy to climax and land a powerful "O"! Needless to say -- when all was said and done I laid back on my bed with a big ole smile on my face!

This puppy does have a few drawbacks -- it's bulky. So although it's an insert-able vibe, you can't thrust with it - at least with your hands. In some positions it was also difficult to hit the vibe program buttons to change the level of intensity. Plus- it takes 3 CC batteries. Yep - that's what I said -- 3 CC batteries.

But I'll be honest with you - the pluses with this silicone powerhouse highly outweigh the drawbacks. Its innovated design just rocks and the speeds are to die for.

Your own The Cone will run you about £49.95 to $77.95 depending where you buy it online, such as SexToys (http://sextoys.co.uk/ or http://www.sextoys-usa.com/). I can't leave this baby out and it is kind of big to stash in my toy box. Nevertheless, it will stay close by -- VERY close by. But we still have to ask ourselves the question...

What about the "O" Factor?

"O" Factor Rating: O O O O O

Who needs a partner if you've got one of these?!

Have a great week and remember if you can't find your sexual groove, no one else will be able to find it either!

If you have a sex toy, naughty novelty or sensual oil that you'd like reviewed here at the "O" Factor, drop us a note at: ofactor@whispersmedia.com.

Between The Sheets - Talk Dirty To Me Baby!

Q: What’s the best way to talk dirty?

A: Naked and slathered up in oil. Wait – talking dirty is one of the ways you get to that point, right? I’m usually pressed for time and like just to skip the formalities and get right to the gritty details. But talking dirty foreplay is very erotic!

So how do you talk dirty without sounding like an idiot? It’s not easy to do – no matter if you talk dirty on a regular basis like me (not to other people mind you – but in my writing) or not – I still feel stupid saying some things out loud. But I do find it a turn on when my lover whispers it in my ear.

So what do you do – do you use the correct terms like penis, vagina, and breasts? Or do you head towards the slang with cock, pussy and tits? It’s really up to the person you are talking to. It’s good to be a bit shocking - that's part of the turn on.

It’s always great to start talking dirty before you hit the bedroom. Emails, phone calls, text messages. You don’t have to say much in this correspondence. Something simple but naughty. Don’t worry about sounding like a cheese wiz. All dirty talk sounds like a slice of cheese from a porn movie. Move past it.

Now if you two are already having sex - say something wicked in your lover’s ear while you’re out in public. Keep your voice low and mention how bad you want them to fuck you. Or you can tell them that you’re in the mood for a screaming orgasm – and you’re not talking about the drink!

If you have yet to get to the sex part – scream something sexually mind blowing in the heat of sex. This way if you say something off – you’ll both be so into the moment that it won’t matter. Use someone else’s words. Did you read a good erotic book, listen to an erotic story or a good movie with some sexual twists? Use the lines you heard or read.

If you or your partner says something that makes either one of you uncomfortable, speak up. If you want your partner to be more explicit or use harder language – then drop a sexually explicit word here and there and they will catch on.

Experiment and have fun with it. Talking dirty is a great way to add another dimension to your sexual relationship!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

Between The Sheets - A Husband's Threesome!

Q: My husband and I were out celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary. After our third or fourth drink, he let it slip that his biggest fantasy is for us to have a threesome with another woman. I laughed it off and said sure. But now I regret agreeing to it. How can I back out of this and turn him mind back to a one-on-one sexual relationship only?

A: As much as I like to drink, over the years I’ve realized when to stop drinking so that I do not answer a question in such a manner that when I was sober I regretted it. What you need to do is be upfront about your realization to your husband. Admit that you had too much to drink and when you sobered up, you regretted your decision.

The worst thing that you can do for your marriage is to go along with his fantasy. I haven’t heard of one marriage or relationship in general, surviving after a third party was brought in. So don’t buck up and play along -- speak up.

To get his mind off of the threesome, create a fantasy of your own. If a man is involved in a fantasy that ultimately leads to sex – he will be a happy man.

Don’t feed his fantasy, instead satisfy his libido!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.

Q: My husband and I were out celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary. After our third or fourth drink, he let it slip that his biggest fantasy is for us to have a threesome with another woman. I laughed it off and said sure. But now I regret agreeing to it. How can I back out of this and turn him mind back to a one-on-one sexual relationship only?

A: As much as I like to drink, over the years I’ve realized when to stop drinking so that I do not answer a question in such a manner that when I was sober I regretted it. What you need to do is be upfront about your realization to your husband. Admit that you had too much to drink and when you sobered up, you regretted your decision.

The worst thing that you can do for your marriage is to go along with his fantasy. I haven’t heard of one marriage or relationship in general, surviving after a third party was brought in. So don’t buck up and play along -- speak up.

To get his mind off of the threesome, create a fantasy of your own. If a man is involved in a fantasy that ultimately leads to sex – he will be a happy man.

Don’t feed his fantasy, instead satisfy his libido!

If you too would like a shot at having your question answered in Between The Sheets - Pillow Talk's sex advice portal - then drop us an email at betweenthesheets@whispersmedia.com.